A house of mirrors is a traditional attraction at carnivals and amusement parks. The basic concept behind a house of mirrors is to be a maze-like puzzle. In addition to the maze, participants are also given mirrors as obstacles, and glass panes to parts of the maze they cannot yet get to. Sometimes the mirrors may be distorted because of different curves, convex or concave in the glass to give the participants unusual and confusing reflections of themselves.
Going through life looking toward others for self worth, approval, love, happiness etc. can be much like walking through a house of mirrors. You might find yourself feeling lost not knowing how to get out of what can feel like a perpetual state of confusion.
We can however change our focus from an outward focus to an inward focus. When we do this we eventually come to see our true selves. It may take sometime of inward focus before we make contact with our true self. Sometimes it is hidden under many, many layers of a false self (conditioning) what we experience as our personality or persona (mask-false self). Once we make contact with our true self, we become less confused. We no longer feel lost and find inner clarity. We cease to feel “out of focus”. We stop looking outside ourselves for our own reflection. We become “real”, we become our true self.
We realize if someone is acting in non loving ways towards us it is a projection of them and not a reflection of us. (It is also true that if we are acting in unloving ways towards others, we are projecting something unhealed in ourselves onto them.) We simply need to remain still without reaction and allow the clarity of our inner mirror to act as a deflector (to prevent, redirect, repel). The person projecting their distortions in our direction will either have to face their own projections or move on to someone else who has not yet discovered their inner mirror. Unfortunately these people will go round and round in a maze of confusion, taking turns projecting their distorted projections onto each other, trapped in a house of mirrors.
*It is important to note that once we are an adult we can no longer play victim to these distorted mirrors. As an adult we are 100% responsible for how we experience ourselves and therefore how we experience our life.
If we find ourselves around someone who is projecting distortions of who they think we are and if we are buying into and believing those distortions, we must understand that we have something to learn. If there was nothing to learn we would not react to or believe these distortions, they would not get our attention at all.
Do not make the mistake of believing that if you do have a person or persons in your life that are projecting distorted views about who they believe you to be, that this is somehow a failure on your part, this is not a failure. It is the process of moving towards unconditional love for your own self, it is the process of healing your fragmented self to become whole again. You will only be able to love others unconditionally by loving yourself unconditionally first.
There will come a time when you no longer are hooked into others views of you, others opinions of you. There will come a time when you will experience a great release, freedom, a state of grace. That time will come but you cannot hurry its arrival, it comes in its own time and cannot be forced.
Give yourself permission to allow the process of loving yourself unconditionally to unfold. ©Irma Francis
Imagine looking at a reflection of yourself in a mirror. The image appears to be an exact copy of what is real, but the image in the mirror is an exact opposite of what is real; your right hand is your left hand in the mirror. The truth is always distorted by the reflection.
When we are children, the mirrors around us hook our attention so we can see them, and what we see are distorted images of ourselves, according to their mood, according to the moment when those mirrors are reflecting back to us, according to whatever belief system they are using to justify their perceptions. The humans around us tell us what they believe we are, but there isn’t a clear mirror to reflect what we really are. All the mirrors are completely distorted. They project what they believe onto us, and almost everything they believe is a lie. We believe it or we don’t believe it, but when we are children, we are innocent and we believe almost everything. We put our faith in lies; we give them life, we give them power, and soon those lies are ruling our lives. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz & Don Jose Ruiz – The Fifth Agreement
What we really believe (subconsciously, rather than what we think we believe consciously) is being mirrored back to us in the form of our most intimate romantic relationships, friendships, businesses, and careers — and even in the condition of our health. The world is nothing more and nothing less than a reflection of what we believe, as individuals and collectively, consciously and subconsciously. ~Gregg Braden
Since fundamental consciousness is not a mental concept, and not an object of consciousness but consciousness itself, it is difficult to understand until one has experienced it. One image often used to convey the experience of fundamental consciousness is a mirror, because fundamental consciousness reflects everything it pervades, while remaining empty and unchanged itself. It is not transient like the inner and outer events it reflects. It holds steady like a mirror while each moment of sensation, emotion, thought, perception, and action occurs and vanishes in its reflection.
The un-attached mind acts like a perfect mirror, reflecting the qualities of good and bad that the mind discerns, yet never possessing them. It becomes free, like the limitless sky above that knows no boundary or end. ~ Judith Blackstone – The Enlightenment Process